What I mean by that is the way we toss the concept of resilience around like we’re reaching for a small blanket to smother a raging forest fire feels suspect to me. You’re so resilient. You’re so, so strong. I’ve heard these refrains countless times throughout my life as if resilience were a trait, a…

I contemplated abandoning the topic of resilience within five minutes of research. The adverbs I found in every dictionary definition grated on my psyche: “to recover from a crisis quickly, “to return to pre-crisis state quickly,” “to adjust to misfortune or change easily.” Doesn’t sound like me. Other definitions made resilience into some kind of…